Good Relationships

I’m doing four weeks of training on Domestic Violence. I know I’ve talked about abuse from my last training session but I thought I would give you a bit of the positive this time around. There is an Equality Wheel in our notes developed by Domestic Abuse Intervention Project & Produced and distributed by National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence. The wheel is separated into eight equal parts I would like to share with you some healthy relational pieces of the pie that;

Negotiation and Fairness: Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict. Accepting changes. Being willing to compromise.


Non-Threatening Behavior: Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.

Respect: Listening to her non-judgmentally. Being emotionally affirming and understanding. Valuing her opinions.

Economic Partnership: Making money decisions together. Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements.

Shared Responsibility: Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work. Making family decisions together.

Trust and Support: Supporting her goals in life. Respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions.

Responsible Parenting: Sharing parental responsibilities. Being a positive, nonviolent role model for the children.

Honesty and Accountability: Accepting responsibility for self. Acknowledging past use of violence. Admitting being wrong. Communicating openly and truthfully.

So I just thought I would give you a glimpse on how it should work in a home, in a family in a good relationship. I’m sure I’ll have more for you as the weeks go by. There was an opposite wheel of Power and Control which basically shows you how it shouldn’t be going. If anyone is interested in that I can post it as well….just let me know. If you are in one of these good relationships as mentioned above AWESOME! If you are in one that isn’t that great but not that bad perhaps you can get help and make it AWESOME. If you can’t find anything on this list in your relationship perhaps it’s time to seek help to get out……..